Values...

Ladies and gentlemen: Ladies in particular; Yes yes, you are being singled out, indirectly. Not because you are Ladies, but because sadly, from what I've seen, this particular instance applies to you all, more so than it does to the fellas. FRIENDS: We love 'em don't we? Ah, but of course we do. However (comma) why is it that some of us are so quick to call any Tom, Dick, Harry, or Marry our "friend?" Ladies, you know what upsets me? When a woman speaks up about being called a "bitch" or "hoe" or any other obscenity out there, but is friends with guys who generalize females as such. You know, when a guy says things like that, he's talkin about you too. Sure, he's not sayin it directly to you, but as a WOMAN, does it only offend you if it's said directly to you? What makes it ok, for a guy to use those words when referring to your "species" (gender) as a whole, but not when he says it to you? Either speak up about THAT, or let it go the next time some loser at the club calls you a "hoe" or "bitch" when you turn his offer for a dance down. VALUES people, we've got to have them. If you don't value the character of your friends, then you don't value yourself. Ladies, I'm not saying defend every case of "Lady bashing" you run into, but pick friends who respect you, value you, and would honor you as a Lady. Fellas, we all know we don't mind Ladies bashing us, we're just happy to hear from a Lady, am I right? Haha...no, but at the same time, pick some good, solid, well rounded female friends who will respect the fact that you're a gentleman, and encourage others to be like you. There's nothing wrong with speaking freely, but try to speak with tact, command respect in the way you speak, and the way you refer to others....just sayin.

Self Control...

Hmm, my first blog, so I'm gonna let it flow.  No real structure behind my writing, just thoughts. I came to think of this post while posting my current status message on Facebook (or past status message, depending on when you, the reader, sees this entry).  I absolutely hate it, when a person is upset, and acts like it's YOUR fault.  I'm relaxing, minding my own business, and get slapped with an ugly attitude.  Not from one person in particular, but just angry people in general.  Now I've been known to be an "up-front" person:  I don't scratch my head unless it itches, and I don't entertain a joke I don't think is funny.  To some, that can come off as me having an attitude.  That's understandable, but I try hard not to snap on those who aren't a reason behind my bad day.  We're all guilty at times, so I won't be a hypocrite, but still.  Some folks don't even try to refrain from shooting the burning flames of irritation your way, though you have nothing to do with it.  If you're having a bad day, calm yourself down, relax, breathe easy;  it'd be better to ignore someone for a while, rather than blow up on them.  You never know what kind of day a person is really having; perhaps they were looking to you as a sense of relief or as someone to confide in.  Whatever the case, control yourself, ensure your days, and others around you's days aren't ruined due to your anger....that is all.